It's now at the time of the year where some of us get to slow down some after a frantic four weeks or so, relax, reflect, and recharge, and yes, I'm in that boat. There's a lot to catch up on so I may as well get started.
Work has been treating me very well. The schedule of performance reviews was accelerated to early this month as opposed to the usual February, and I did very well this past year. To be honest, that was the best performance review I've ever had in my career. It helps in that my boss and I have known each other for a long time, having worked together at Paragon Space Development here in Tucson. I was really jazzed up about that review; I had been banking some comp time that day and I went home early so that I could reflect on that. It was one of those moments where I had to invoke one of my recent sayings: savor, but don't gloat. I suppose I ought to expand on that some.
When I was offered a job at another company in early 1996, I was glad to get out of the company that I worked for, and into something really neat that I could do. One of my co-workers who had also left said something that I've never forgotten: savor the moment.
Now we fast forward to where I'm older, and hopefully wiser. My mindset towards things when things are going good has changed somewhat. It's trying to remember to thank God for the fortune, but it's also to not get caught up on gloating. Perhaps you have seen some end zone celebrations while watching a football game. Players can't help but celebrate a touchdown. It's human nature. Yet the Dallas Cowboys coach Tom Landry told his players not to celebrate. He told them "act like you've been there before". In other words, have some class about it, and don't rub it into your opponent's face.
I can see where Tom Landry was coming from on that. Excessive celebration will have the effect of motivating your opponent to fighting harder to win, and some of us, when we want to do something badly enough we will figure out a way to get it done. If you gloat, that can come back and bite you. That's one reason.
The other reason, is something I read in the Sermon on the Mount. There Christ warns people about celebrating your good deeds. I take that more as a warning against virtue signaling, and virtue signaling is one thing the world could use a severe shortage of right now. Now can you celebrate inwardly? I say you can. Savor, but don't gloat.
But what about celebration? And is there a time to gloat? Here is where what I'm about to say reflects my personal opinion.
If you land a new job, yes, take your wife and family out, and celebrate with a nice dinner. If you reach a marriage milestone like I'm about to, yes, celebrate (and on that one you had better if you want to stay married...........!!!!!) And if you want to jump up and down in the privacy of your own living room when something good happens, go for it. You're not putting on a show for anyone.
But when is it time to gloat?
Again, my personal opinion is coming into play here.
If you're a ham radio operator and you get someone on Pitcairn Island, then you can gloat. And there are two reasons. One, over 99% of the rest of the population won't care about that, so it's not like you're rubbing into anyone's face. Two, the other ham radio operators will congratulate you and say "good job!", and then ask you how you pulled it off.
Anyway...........we are nearing the end of another year. One of my former employers is trying to get me to come back. I haven't told them no, but I haven't told them yes either. My next job is retirement, and that next job starts sometime between tomorrow and one year from tomorrow. I'm not ready to announce the intended date, which is subject to change. Let's say that I'm not close enough to it to where I feel the need to let my management know about it.
I have also been busy enjoying my time off, mainly in the pursuit of hobbies and simple pleasures. Yeah, there are some things around the house I need to do, and I've worked on it here and there.
That's it.